Last night I was out to dinner with friends and the discussion was about a 6 week old handsome young male addition to their family. He snuggled up to his mother’s chest and a remark was made about being shy at such a young age. This statement opened a discussion on shyness. It was brought to my attention that “Painfully Shy” holds a lot of truth. One of the women at the table told us about her experience with shyness in her early life, 1 to 10 years old. She said it physically hurt her, being shy. When a family friend touched her hand or cheek there was an actual pain to that action. Her chin was forever touching her chest and she doesn’t remember making eye contact with adults or other kids. She was so shy in school she had to sit next to her teacher at lunch because it was painfully for her to even open her own lunch pail. When roll call was taken, she couldn’t even respond “here”. The school wanted to hold her back a grade thinking that may help.
Her story stuck with me. She has a SEVEN lifepath. I am a numerologist and I know all odd numbers are introverts. I also know that SEVEN lifepaths are thinkers, quiet and reserved. In my book on children’s numerology I share my description of a little SEVEN as an intuitive visionary on a path that only they control. Many young 7s are considered slow learners, having a learning disorder, shy, sensitive. But “Painfully Shy” struck a cord.
I did some research on shyness. And over half of the people alive today report they were and/or still shy as adults. Like I said, all odd numbered paths are introverts. An introvert is defined as a person predominantly concerned with their own thoughts; shy; inward. Adele and Taylor Swift talk openly about being shy and having stage fright. My friend that started this conversation appears to have been cured of her shyness. I mean it is definitely not a word I would use today to describe her. But I could tell her emotions were still raw as her words flowed on the subject.
As I was writing this blog this morning my AirBnB guests asked about my books. I told them I was currently writing a blog post on shyness. He was quick to tell me about his “Painfully Shy” life in elementary school. I told him my research claims the first thing adults can do when in the company of a shy child is to never use that word to describe them. It is like throwing darts at them, it is painful. They NEVER think what they suffer from is CUTE! He assured me that was correct. And he remembers a 6th grade teacher that took the time and energy everyday to talk only to him, offering a lot of one on one time. It wasn’t long before he was able to talk directly to this teacher. “He validated my thoughts. This teacher wanted to hear what I had to say. He was responsible for bringing me out of my shell.”